Saturday, August 25, 2012

Adoptions and gay families

Adoptions and gay families


I was just reading Bryan’s blog about the 10 kids and 2 dads.  I hadn’t watched the show, I don’t think I have OWN channel, and I don’t usually watch TV anymore. He has said this; there is Michelle who sometimes helps the two dads. Often whenever there is something to be discussed, Michelle was called in to help.

Now, I get what Bryan is saying; why Michelle? Why can’t the show focus on the two guys who should be doing the discussion on what’s best for their kids? Is it that they think that children NEED a mommy figure? I really don’t get those people. If you’re going to do a show about two dads raising kids, especially many kids, you will need to show them as they are, not someone who needs to rely on an opposite sex person as if they’re incapable of handling things themselves. It makes the dads sound unhelpful and incompetent.

I don’t know what was really going on with the family off camera, but I rather we have the facts. I don’t trust television; they can warp things to their own liking. Now, I have no problem with the idea of having someone help out once in a while, it can be a good thing, but it’s important to show the two dads talking about issues that needed to be discussed together otherwise, you’re just making them look like unfit fathers.

It is great to see same-sex families on TV, there should be more and they should be shown as they are, not acted or altered for any reason. They should be shown as they are. But as I fear, Television cares more about ratings and money than facts. But I can be wrong and there are certain channels that see same-sex families as just any other families, with their own ups and downs and that these families are truly capable of raising healthy, stable kids. The real danger is the homophobia.


Bryan has made a point about the fact that some people look at large families as something bad. I live in a huge family, I have three brothers and three sisters. My brothers and my eldest sister have children of their own. The way I see it, families comes in all shapes and sizes, there are good and bad in all families. There is no good reason to look at a large group of families and judge them hastily. You can’t know a family by looking at them, no matter how big or small, or their gender or sexuality, or anything like that.


The saddest thing about adoptions is that those who look to adopt children, do not look for those who are disabled, minority, or even interesting to look at. I figured that with my hearing impairment, I wouldn’t be adopted by anyone. I say this because most people who adopt are too judgmental and picky. When it comes to Daniel and Selena, Jay and Bryan’s children, they are the minority and Daniel has Golden Har Syndrome. If it weren’t for Jay and Bryan, Daniel might not have been adopted, let alone along with his sister Selena.

This is said because some people who commented on Jay and Bryan’s video about why most kids that were adopted were black. Why did it matter if they were black? Shouldn’t it matter that they now have a family?

I think the way people treats adoption, is the same way they treat pet adoptions; choosing the most perfect, adorable one that may be their own ethnic. To me that is cruel and unloving. I would like those people to ask themselves if they were in an orphanage with different skin color, disability, and unwanted, how would they feel?


Now, there is also gay couples who look to adopt and yet are treated like they’re inferior or a danger to kids. This the 21st century and yet people still thinks like those in the 60’s, “gays are pedophiles!” “gays are recruiting kids!” and all that bullcrap.

Why are we still going on the same way as it had been in the 60’s? Hadn’t we all got passed that? Evidently not. I have made most post before about families and that gay couple are just like any other couples and that gays who choose to adopt are simply choosing to be parents like any other straights who chose to be parents. They want to raise a family, give a home to an unwanted kid and give them love, security, stable and healthy life.

Now, some people actually talk about abuses and neglect, but when it comes to a gay couple adopting, they’re against it simply because they’re gay and smear them with “pedophilia” or “abusive parent.”

I find it sad that when people who actually abuse kids or neglect them, they’re just being given a slap on the wrist and be on their way. But if a gay couple adopts a kid, it doesn’t matter how healthy, stable, or safe these kids are, it doesn’t matter that you help them with their homework, take them to soccer practice, to dentist appointments, or to school. It doesn’t matter that you read them a bedtime story, took them to a theme park, or even give them a pet to care for. All that mattered to them was that you’re gay and they don’t want it. All because “children needs a mother and a father” and “gays are harmful to children!”

Why is it like that? Where’s the sense in all this?

Monday, August 20, 2012

Gay Family Values: The Family Research Council Shooting...A Little Pe...

Gay Family Values: The Family Research Council Shooting...A Little Pe...: OK...this has been the busiest week I have had in some time and this the first chance I have had to respond to the shooting that took pla...

Poor little Family Research Council... NOT!

Tony Perkins on Friday - "I am grateful that over two dozen homosexual activist organizations released a joint statement expressing concern for Leo (the guard who was shot) and condemning the attack, agreeing that such violence is unacceptable. I would ask them to take the next appropriate step and call on the SPLC to end the words and actions which foster the environment that breeds brutality like we saw on Wednesday morning. I also ask any who repeat SPLC's false "hate group" label to stop."

ME: Actually Tony, you ARE a hate group. You spread lies and you call homosexuals pedophiles. You never had the decency to do your homework on facts. You are pretty much not interested in reality, you're intertested in making up claims, using double standards, and using slippery slope arguments. We will not stop calling you a hate group because you are a hate group. Tony, how about this; why don't you stop being so closed minded and ignorant of facts around you, and start getting to know LGBT people. I bet you won't. I'll bet you'll just cover your ears and scream out all sorts of lies to dehumanize LGBT people. You're not interested in facts, you're just a horrible closet case bigot who prefer lies and hate.

Thursday, August 16, 2012

Bryan fischer wants gay sex photos!

This is rich. This is really rich. I’m laughing my head off at this. Bryan Fiste.. ah Fischer want photos of consequences of after gay sex. Really Fischer? Really?

Ok Mr. Fischer, allow me to make this perfectly clear; homosexuality is not about sexual activity and the activity between two men are no different from activities between a man and a woman. Really, it is true.

Let me clue you in on this. What gay people do is simply the same as any straight people do;

Cuddle up afterwards

Take a shower afterwards

Sleep together

Make breakfast in the morning

Et cetera, et cetera, et cetera.

That is not any different from straight people. Mr. Fischer, what exactly are you trying to find here? Full-blown AIDs? Mangled body of young boys? Erupted anus?  Or any other horrible stuff you fantasize about?

Here’s something you should know Fischer. There are many heterosexual couples, mostly women, who get abused. There are girls who are sexually assaulted, raped, abused physically, and some women were bloody and broken. If we have to focus on the trauma of relationships, especially after sex, then maybe we should look at straight people.

Fischer, I don’t know why you are so obsessed over homosexuality and gay sex. But it’s very clear to me you’re in a closet. Your obsession is very clear to me; you’re a gay man who is afraid to come out. Mr. Fischer, please devote your time focusing on your own life and leave people alone.

You will not find homosexual couples any different from heterosexual couples. To do so would be a double standard.

Wednesday, August 15, 2012

Shooting at FRC? What's this world coming to?

First and foremost, I am very upset that this happened. What this man did was inexcusable. I would never agree with  FRC, Or do I even care what they have to say. But to go over there and shoot someone because you disagree with their anti-gay stance is not the way to improve equality. That will only hurt us. Now that FRC will say, "SEE! SEE! This is what these gays will do! They'll kill us because they don't like what we say!"

Dear Family Research Center,

I don't feel sorry for you, but what that man did was inexcusable as well. I personally disagree with your stance on LGBT individuals, but i won't do anything to you. I would however debunk your lies and prove to people facts whatever you say against LGBT people.

I know that you like to demonize us and treat us like we're the bad guys. What that shooter did was his own intention, this has nothing to do with us because we do not approve of this action. You will not see us do the same as he did, so don't try and make up a lie that we as LGBT individuals will do harm.

You do have every right to believe whatever you want to believe, and say whatever you want. That doesn't mean however that you're above criticism or that no one should debunk what you said. Your stance on LGBT individuals, families, marriage, and rights is bad.

Dear Floyd Kerkins,

What you did is bad. Your action isn't helping, but it does more damage to us and sets us back. You should know better than to use violence on them. Yes they're Anti-gay and their stance is bigoted as they come, but using violence only makes things worse. We don't use violence to fight for equality. Martin Luther King Jr didn't use violence to fight for the rights of African Americans. We need to resort to peaceful tactics and debunking lies they say and show the world who we are. By using violence, you're making FRC think we've organized this attack and that this is how LGBT people are. You're only proving them right.

Tuesday, August 14, 2012

there's that "gay = pedophile" lie again!

Thanks to Alvin, I found this blog about little Victoria. *Sigh* Such a lying little bigot.

Victoria: Suddenly, the gym CNN is blasting a story of how a homosexual man is helping other homosexuals adopt children. He speaks about the personal, passionate sacrifice of his time for this cause as if he were Mother Theresa. I’m appalled. Homosexuals-adopting-children is child abuse. No, it’s pedophilia and sexual molestation. Teaching a young mind, a clean slate, an innocent soul that homosexuality is a natural, normal and moral lifestyle is evil. How is gay adoption different from the recently jailed Penn State Jerry Sandusky, child molester case?

There’s that “Gays = pedophilia” lie again. Victoria has absolutely no idea what she’s talking about. First off, gays and lesbians who adopt children want to be parents. Second off, the pedophiles that abuse children are often found in heterosexual households. Little Victoria clearly didn’t do her homework as is resorting to lying and spreading scare tactics.

Victoria, if you’re going to be concerned about the safety and welfare of children, then I suggest you look at the people of all sexuality, race, religion, and learn for yourself that sex abuse and pedophilia happens everywhere regardless. A person’s sexuality does not equal pedophilia.

There are children raised on heterosexual households that have been abused physically, mentally, emotionally, sexually, and more. Some neglected them, some have abandoned them or put them in hazardous situations. Gay people who adopts children does not mean they will abuse them.

I know a gay family who took care of their adopted kids. Why don’t you ask them, get to know them, and quit trying to make stuff up about a family you don’t even know?

You’re not concerned about the children; you’re only spouting lies and misrepresentation about people you don’t even know. You generalize and presume that what someone’s sexuality is means they’re somehow a threat or that they would abuse children. This is no different than thinking that black parents adopting white kids would abuse them.

Again, I suggest you do your research instead of making up stuff. Look to the facts and statistics of people who abused their children. The highest number of household abuses comes from heterosexual homes.

“Argument #3: Gay parents molest their children.

The research has long demonstrated that there is simply no connection between homosexuality and pedophilia and thus, no basis for this terrible myth. Indeed, the research shows that people who are pedophiles often have no sexual interest in adults, male or female.”

Unless you think they’re lying, how about providing facts instead of making things up?

Dear Victoria, I hope you will do your homework next time because you’re wrong and I have evidence to back them up.

Sincerely, Tim the skeptic, Bisexual and Atheist.

P.S. Did not your bible say, “Thou shall not bear false witness?”



Monday, August 13, 2012

10% or not 10%? That is the question!

I do not know how many LGBT people there is in the world. Some think that it is 2%. Some people think it’s 10%. If I had to make a guess, I would think the answer is 30% if not more. I don’t think I’m right, but I don’t think we can just calculate how many people there is when they have been badly discriminated against. My reason is this; sexuality is fluid, not easily cut into groups.

We cannot say that this group is straight and this group is gay, because it’s not really that simple as it looks. If we have to find all 7 billion people, ask them their sexuality, there is going to be people who may say they are pansexual, bisexual, asexual, transgender, gay, lesbian, heterosexual, and more. But not all 7 billion people will tell you their sexuality, so it’s not like we’re going to find an accurate answer.

Some people have done a survey and have asked people to tell them their sexuality. The problem I find with this is that most people don’t tell you their sexuality or don’t even think about their sexuality. Some people don’t even consider labeling themselves or even think it’s any of their business. Also, if there wasn’t any discrimination towards LGBT people, if there was no lies or scare tactics made by homophobic people, if there was no restrictions of any rights to them, if their families accepts them and never tries to kill, disown, or force them into reparative therapy, if we accepted ourselves without fear or self-hate then we just might see the more accurate numbers of LGBT people. For them to say it’s 2% for example just shows just how bad it is.

It’s not that I don’t accept the idea that the statistic is low, it is that with homophobia all over the world where gays are murdered, restricted from rights, kicked from families, self-hatred or fear of the lies they were led to believe, it’s not a wonder they got a low percentage of people openly saying they’re gay.

Let’s suppose 1 in 10 people who are gay. With 7 billion people, the number of LGBT may be 700,000,000. That is by far a lot of people.

One thing for certain, it really doesn’t matter how many LGBT people there is in the world, what does matter is that we’re all human beings. From now on, let’s just not assume we know precisely how many there is, and just live our lives.

Thursday, August 9, 2012

Dear Hypothetical gay son/daughter

I've read the letter by a dad who disowned his gay son. It infuriates me whan this happens. So i decided to write a bit of my own letter to a hypothetical kid of my own.

Dear Hypothetical gay son/daughter

I write this to you to let you know that I love you no matter what. Your sexuality is not an issue to me. The important thing for a parent is to always love and accept their children. I accept and love you very much.

Never think I wouldn’t accept you as you are, or disown you, or treat you bad. Parents who do those are not parents and what they do is harmful. I want you to know that I accept you as you are. I will never disown you or treat you bad.

When you are born, I never think about, “How I want you to be” but “who you may be.” I don’t want to demand grandchildren from you, I don’t want to tell you to marry someone of the different gender. To do so is never a good sign of parenting. As a dad, I expect only three things from you; be good to others as well as yourself, take responsibilities, and make your decisions in life.

Saturday, August 4, 2012

Thursday, August 2, 2012

Chic-fil-a supporters understand nothing

Chic-fil-a supporters understand nothing (You can cheat and use this cross reference the tax document instead of wiki.) (See : Controversy regarding LGBT issues)

Ok, I’m going to make this perfectly clear to these supporters.

1)                      This is not a “Free speech” issue, this is a financial issue!

2)                      Chic-fil-a is donating almost 5 million dollars to anti-gay groups

3)                      The anti-gay groups wants to dehumanize us, kill us, imprison us, have us be beaten, be denied any human rights whatsoever, and to live in the closet forever.

4)                      The reason number 3 is precisely why we’re protesting and boycotting chic-fil-a!

5)                      To support Chic-Fil-A is to support criminalization of LGBT individuals, of putting LGBT people in ex-gay therapies, of denying human rights, of wanting death penalty for LGBT people, of supporting the lies about LGBT individuals.

6)                      By supporting Chic-Fil-A, you’re clearly saying you want more Matthew Shepards and all who were murdered because they were LGBT. You’re saying you want more Jamey Rodemeyers and countless of teenage youths to commit suicide for being gay, you’re saying that LGBT people should have no right to job, housing, marriage, family, or anything, and you’re saying that LGBT children should be forced to live in streets or into ex-gay therapies.

7)                      We did not fight for many years for civil rights and equality to have it all thrown away.

8)                      That is why we’re boycotting Chic-Fil-A!

9)                      If you’re a gay man or lesbian who supports Chic-Fil-A, are you asking for people to arrest you? To kill you? To deny you rights? To treat you like you’re some evil sex deviant boogeyman?

10)                 The free speech does not mean “Anything I say goes, anyone who disagrees is suppressing my religious freedom!” Free speech means you’re free to belief whatever you want, say whatever you want. It does not mean you’re free from criticism or disagreement. If you can’t handle people standing up for themselves and disagreeing with you, then you have a problem with the first amendment.

11)                 Dan Cathy is free to believe whatever he wants to believe, he is free to say whatever he wants, but that is not why we’re against him. We’re against him because he wants LGBT individuals dead, stripped of all human rights, imprisoned, dehumanized, and be forced to be back in the closet and out of sight.

12)                 I fight for equality and human rights because we are all human beings too. We should all have the right to marry, to housing, to jobs, to serving the military, to having a family, to being able to be ourselves.

13)                 As for the kiss in, this is a peaceful protest. This is to clearly state to homophobes that, “Hey, we’re gay, we’re capable of love just like you, get over yourselves.”

14)                 To get upset over the kiss in is like getting upset over gays and lesbians adopting children or getting married. LGBT couples should be allowed to kiss in public just like everyone else. To say otherwise is to say, “Let’s just hide in the closet just to appease the bigots.”

15)                 Never should we appease bigotry. If we do nothing to stand up to homophobia, then we lose. You can’t change the world by doing nothing! You can’t strop discrimination by doing nothing!

16)                 Remember the blacks who fought for equal rights? If they hadn’t had protest, they wouldn’t be equal today!

17)                 If women didn’t fight for equality, they wouldn’t have it today!

18)                 If we allow Chic-Fil-A to destroy LGBT individuals, then for all you know, they’ll come after you too!